The holidays are almost here! For many adult children who don’t live nearby their aging parents or perhaps don’t get the chance to visit often, this can be a wonderful time to catch up and enjoy cherished family traditions with mom or dad; however, it can also provide an opportunity to assess how they’re doing in terms of their physical, mental and emotional health.
Have you recently moved into a retirement residence? For some, it can take a while for a new place to feel like home; however, the holidays are the perfect time to enliven your new space with the holiday décor you look forward to putting out each year, as well as bring forward those old seasonal traditions that give you a sense of warmth, peace and happiness—that “at home” feeling. You may even find your new retirement community provides the chance to make new holiday memories.
Are you the caregiver for your parents and are finding it frustrating that other family members aren’t doing more to help?
There is much written today about the challenges of caregiving and how to manage those challenges—but what if it isn’t you who is the caregiver, but your spouse? What is your role then?
Given all of the emotions around money, as an adult child, how can you approach the financial talk with your parent to ensure the greatest likelihood of an effective and harmonious conversation?
I asked Ginette about other family members that might be able to help her in providing support to her parents. She told me she had one sister, *Marta, who lives several hours away. Ginette said she and Marta had a good relationship, but she was getting increasingly frustrated that the whole responsibility of caring for their parents was falling to her.
Is 2018 the year you’ll be considering moving into a smaller home? An apartment? A retirement residence? And is that thought potentially daunting, given the amount of belongings in your current home?
The holidays can result in more time spent together as a family than typical at other times of the year. During these family gatherings, it’s not uncommon for adult children to notice changes with their parents.
As our parents age, it can become easy to fall into the trap of seeing them as less capable versions of their younger selves. We may mistakenly accept old age as a time of decline, rather than a new chapter of development and growth. That narrow lens can affect our relationship with our parents; we might even feel like we’re reversing roles, transitioning from child to caregiver.
Helping an aging parent may surface various emotions—some that can be enjoyable and rewarding, and others that can be painful or difficult to manage. When I met with one of my clients, Cynthia*, this is exactly what she wanted to talk with me about: how to deal with the myriad of emotions she is experiencing as her mother ages.